Ask and Ye Shall Receive

  • Posted on: 12 April 2011
  • By: Shawn DeWolfe
“Be careful what you wish for.”
“Ask. Believe. Receive.”
“Success will test a man’s mettle more than combat.”
“You get what you pay for.”
“Ask and Ye shall Receive”
All of these truisms say the same thing: when you get what you’re trying to get, you may not like what you get. In doing the Purpose Party thing, I’ve come to it with some built in theories and beliefs:
The Laws of Attraction have merit. “Have merit” as opposed to “Are true.” Newton’s laws of physics were not incorrect compared to Einstein’s-- they were just incomplete. I think the Laws of Attraction are going up short as to how things happen, but they work. I have seen people whom I refer to as “Danger Magnets.” One woman I knew loaned her car, got dropped off in the red light district of town without her wallet, but had her cellphone. She walked around there getting propositioned and harassed. A whole string of purposeful circumstances had to happen to drop her into the role of accidental prostitute. If a danger magnet can attract trouble, then there must be people who are wired to end up lucky-- with fortune perpetually smiling down upon them. The danger magnet is turned on to attraction misfortune, so the opposite charge has to be possible.
Ask. Hopes are hopeless. You hold inside of yourself your dreams and wishes. “I wish Jimmy would call me.” “I hope my Mom stops gambling.” Internalizing wishes does nothing to realizing those wishes. People are prone to suggestion. That’s why advertising works. When you ask for something one of two things will happen: people will give it to you, or refuse you. If you keep quiet you may never get to that coin toss of permission. If someone refuses you, your landscape becomes clear. A “yes” in an open road. A “no” is washed out bridge or a barricade and you need to find another way to get what you want. Recognizing the landscape is key to making use of it. I have recent examples where asking yielded results:
  1. I quit my job and I was worried about joblessness. I put out there that I was for hire as a contractor-- basically 3x my old pay but I would see a random amount of hours. As soon as I put it out there that I was for hire, people dumped work on me. Inside of a week, I tripled my income by dropping the job that made me unhappy.
  2. I wanted to build a shed. I needed to get help. I asked for help. Facebook is fantastic in that you can speed dial all of your friends at the same time with a call for help. Soon, I had 10 people at the ready to lift walls, screw screws and pound nails. I asked. I got help
Asking signals your intentions. People are prone to obliging, so putting it out there consciously and visibly can get people to flock to your aide. While weight loss is an inner battle, saying “I’m dieting” or “Can you serve something low-fat / low-calorie?” are ways to signal to people your wishes and accomplishing your goals more likely than if the same people gave you bacon wrapped butter.
Ask. Believe. Receive. Deceive. There is a tenet of pop self-help movements that all you have to do is Ask then Believe and you will Receive. Why isn’t the world awash in lottery winners? I would totally ask for a winning lottery ticket. With Canada seeing at least 100 million-dollar lottery draws per year, it’s entirely possible for me to believe that I could receive a winning ticket if I asked for it. It doesn’t happen like that. You need to insert effort into the formula to move from your vision to your reality. If you don’t put this linkage into place, you won’t be able to receive what you’ve asked for. You can only believe in what is remotely possible. You can only receive something that is remotely possible, if you build your stepping stones to that goal. You can be the next J.K. Rowling. You cannot be Superman.
You have to remember to be careful what you asked for. A friend of my was an impatient sort-- he hated the idea of a desk job. He had dyslexia. He wanted to be a writer. I asked him if that’s what he really wanted. He was in love with the idea of being a writer. I’ve done that gig full-time from time-to-time. Writing involves a lot of typing at a desk-- even if its a table in a coffee shop, there is still a lot of real work involved. When faced with that reality of an introverted text heavy career my friend realized that he didn’t want to write for living, even if he did want to be a writer.
If you want to be something or attain a goal you need to ask yourself if it’s really what you want. Sometimes, people are drawn to the trapping of a success rather than the dynamics of their goal. When you ask the world, start by asking yourself.

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