Have You Tried Not Being Fat?

  • Posted on: 6 July 2014
  • By: Shawn DeWolfe

There seemed to be a crest of people tell others what's wrong about them. There is so much outrage at people being different. No matter what you look like or what you think, you're in the cross-hairs. Even supermodels get rebuke. Go ahead: search, "Kate Upton fat" and you will see an onslaught of people who are disgusted with the supermodel. Looks aren't everything. People who choose to read, Harry Potter books or "The Fault In Our Stars" are drawing fire. I caught a share of this Slate article, about how grown ups should not read young adult literature.

Everyone has a problem with everything: genetics, choices, genetics that are couched as choices, et cetera. Choices are forced upon people. Imagine getting a 3x multiple surcharge on your life insurance because of your lifestyle or heritage? Imagine there being talk to preempting you from health care because of lifestyle or heritage? How about something as simple as not hiring you because you're fat? All of those are the dynamics of living in a world where obesity is the new demon.

Go ahead and try this experiment and see if you're good with saying all of these about someone you encounter:
Have you tried _________________ ?
  • being less Christian
  • to think like I want to you to think
  • to diet
  • not being gay
  • to be richer
  • being less Chinese
  • to eat better
Look back at my family history, as far back as there are photos from my gene-lines, there are fat people. Three of the five generations lived before the era of big gulps and McDonalds. They worked physical jobs and lived through times of economic despair. Despite all that, we were wide in the waist. Choice, genetics, or bad luck: I'm fat. Is obesity my choice? Sorta. I have opted for a 1000+ calorie diet (most people eat in the 2500+ range). I eat daily. I choose to exercise for less than an hour per day. I choose to not always go to exceptional lengths to manage my weight. My physical state is a side effect of living my life somewhere in between the societal norm and some crazy extreme to would spark weight loss. What sort of extreme?

Well, I did lose my weight once. I lost over 100 pounds. How? I stopped eating altogether for nine days. Then, one month of one meal per day; and three months of two meals per day. I spoke with someone recently who lost 41 pounds. They did so by signing up for a spa stay: two weeks and $7000 later, he lost 28 pounds. He had to gulp litres of water mixed with sickening amounts of salt. The salt and water were meant to sicken his body into full rebellion. As he put it, "I peed from all my holes." If you are not fat, have you fasted for more than a week? Have you drunk so much salty water than your body dispells it and drags out accompanying mass? "Have you tried losing weight?" is a passive request to undergo some variant of a physical ordeal that results in meeting the approval of others. Oh, I'll be healthy I guess, after that. I'll be in the weight range of Jim Fixx (dead), River Phoenix (dead) or Kurt Cobain (dead). Getting "healthy" in response to external goading rests on a bed of denial. It rests on the idea that healthy people are immortal. It rests on the idea that unhealthy people will die imminently. It rests on the idea that one metric of good health is all it takes to be considered healthy.

Imagine getting together an array of practices and procedures bent on changes other types of people? It would be considered barbaric. Still, stomach staples, amphetamines, off-label uses for drugs, cripplingly expensive resort stays-- these are all easy to come by tactics in fighting the battle of the bulge.

People think being fit is the only logical, rational choice. From a rational perspective, organisms live to perpetuate their genes. Full stop. I was not put on this Earth to code-- I am here, because someone else reproduced. From a rational perspective, there is no other reason for humans to be alive than to reproduce. We're not obliged to eat or breath our essntial CO2 to help out plants. Humans are here wholly by accident; wholly without purpose; or to reproduce. From a rational perspective, any human that doesn't breed is a genetic dead-end: a sudden homo habilis. The rancor reserved for what people do seems to have no borders. Fat people are in the kill zone. Humans who don't breed are not. How about just shelve the opinions of others? Human do two things that the remainder of the animal kingdom does not:
  • We have recipes (chimps never think 'this gazelle shank would go better with a crushed termite.')
  • We impress our opinions upon others.

Let people live their lives and understand that if you sign on for an opinion, maybe you have to stick around to help your reality of an imposed change come into being. Instead of signing for a lifetime of social engineering on a one-on-one level, just drop your tutting, your denigration and get on with your own lives. But then, that's maybe the key problem. Change is hard. It becomes easier when you may someone else do it. People getting other people to change, so that they needn't carry out change in their own lives. They have to impose change upon others and make them walk uphill with a bag of sand. It's like the angry parents at a kids' softball game. They're shouting and getting all up in arms, not because the kids are not enjoying themselves, but because they want to see successes that they could never find within themselves.

We should be celebrating people who are content. We need to retake a dominion of the self. It's under assault. People are empowered to force others to be different. Every time we react and push out liberty in one direction, we repeal the liberty a little somewhere else. There are so many states of being that used to warrant a crime. Pre-1969, being gay was illegal in Canada. Go back a few years more and Indians could not vote. Go back further and some immigrants could not vote. It took jurisdiction cooking during World War I, to give some women the right to vote. The government used to have lots of reasons why many could not have the same liberty as others. The government has stepped back from openly displaying that sort of bigotry. We need to surrender our own deputized "right" to replace the government in telling each other what to do. When you look on with derision because someone is black, or poor, or fat or gay, or frumpy-- you are imposing your will via disapproval upon others. I know. Fat people are the new lowest class. Yes, you can seek out non-Christian neighbourhoods and feel empowered to voice that discrimination, but you don't dare say, "what are part of town has no Chinese people?" or "How can I avoid the gays?" Fat people-- you can call them out as you wish. I have had people-- total strangers-- take the time to recommend medical treatments. A) FUCK OFF; B) I have tried all manner of treatments; C) What if I don't want to? Why is my life and my destiny important to someone? I'm going to die: my body is probably not immortal. If I am "doing that to my body" and that's bad, then again: fuck off. If you care enough to venture the opinion, show up every day to walk with them through the change and really work to facilitate it. The "be the change you want to be" that people take on upon themselves is not something that should be imposed upon people from the world outside.

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